You wonder what the plight of a widower is.
Before proceeding, if you did not read last week’s post feel free to click on the link as it introduced the concept of widowhood
Click on the link to read it: https://nokview.wordpress.com/2017/11/11/widowhood-the-state-of-losing-a-spouse-to-death/
Widowers also suffer from the death of their spouse, so just because the treatment meted upon a woman during widowhood rite is not meted on a man does not mean he is not suffering.
Firsts of all when a man losses his wife, he has lost is wife, companion, bed mate to mention a few.
His children lose their mother.
He has to come to terms of that he is now a widower and to an extent life begins afresh.
No man is happy when he loses his wife
In other words,
a man does not go through the widowhood rites but inside of him he is hurting, sad, angry, frustrated and unbalanced mentally, physically to mention a few.
Anyways the fact still stands that in other to juxtapose the condition of a widow and widowers experience , one is at a winning end (men) as compared to a woman who despite being sad, angry, frustrated, heartbroken still have to go through harsh and sometimes inhuman treatment just fulfil all requirement .
This brings us to the topic of the next post a practise and plight of a widow: widowhood rites for women in Africa
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OmoAckin
I quite agree with you about women not being at the winning end when it comes to widowhood, especially in Africa. I remember an ancient yoruba tradition of the brother of a widow’s husband taking the widow as wife. I heard one of kings being buried with their favourite wife too.
nokview
Next week post aims to cover some the widowhood rites. You will be amazed at some treatment women go through.